Have you ever gone through a phase in your life where you really just feel like being silent? Or you enjoy the silence a lot more than you did before? I recently noticed that I no longer feel awkward when faced with silence, rather I embrace it. What is the point in constantly yapping on and on? Don’t get me wrong, I have verbal diarrhoea most of the time. However, I’ve learned to enjoy the silence. Like when you’re in the car at 7 am on your way to work and you’re still so sleepy, you don’t have the mental ability that early in the morning to deal with someone telling you their entire life story.

I used to be really loud and spoke a lot because I had such bad anxiety that people were bored of my conversation, that my coping mechanism was to try and keep the conversation going in any way I could. Meaning, I basically couldn’t shut up and would end up saying something inappropriate and offending someone. Don’t do this, it’s annoying as hell and people don’t enjoy being offended. Sometimes chilling in silence allows you to think of some really cool things that you can later converse about. Some of my best ideas have come from my moments of complete silence..

I always thought people who sat around being silent were super weird, but now I’m one of those people and now I think it’s less weird because I kind of get it now.

“Don’t you hate that? Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable? That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.”

Mia Wallace (Pulp Fiction)