You always read about how a rebound relationship is meant to be doomed from the word go and that it’s basically the downtown of relationships. I call bullshit, just saying. What up it’s yo girl Bee again, I’ve had writer’s block for a couple of days and I’m pretty sure I still do, but I’m attempting to write because that’s what I said I was going to do! I hope you enjoy this one…

Previously I had written a small blog on how last year my entire life changed and I was convinced that something was very wrong with me. I had never been strong enough to walk away from something that was no longer bringing me joy. I constantly waited around to be walked away from, but for once, this girl said no more, please. I eventually got so unhappy with my life that I was an empty void. If I wasn’t extremely irritable, I was super sad and always breaking down into tears about nothing.

After about 3 months of constant misery and sadness, you realize that you aren’t the only one who is being affected. Often, when we’re in a situation such as this, we only consider our own feelings, this time it was different. I was causing someone else unhappiness through my constant despair and the wall that I had put up. That wall was to protect me from the piercing, gut-wrenching heartbreak I was expecting. You know that one where your entire life just sort of falls to a pile of rubble in front of you? Yeah, I had enough of that feeling, I’d experienced it way too often for my liking. So I said goodbye and then this Punk came along and showed me that I deserved everything good in life. From convincing myself that I was a piece of crap, who should stay undeserving forever, I now believe that no matter what one has done in the past, you can always change for the better, if it’s what you want, and I got lucky enough to meet someone who encouraged me to forgive myself for my past.

The point of this is, I read an article on a study that was done on rebound relationships. We’re always told they cannot work or won’t work, etc. However, here I am happier than ever with someone society would consider a rebound. From this relationship I’ve only been allowed to grow, to be happy, and boy-oh-boy has there been much to learn and accept. I think our biggest mistake in life is our inability to not give a shit about what society thinks. No one should be allowed to sway your mind when it comes to life decisions unless you’re making horrible choices, then I understand people wanting to get involved. Allow yourself to love who you want to love, even if it’s going to piss a bunch of people off. I’ve been in a situation where the opinion of others was always taken into consideration and you know what? That isn’t love.

Am I crazy for loving someone so soon? Hell to the nah, love is love and if you love someone, what are you supposed to do with those feelings if not feel and act on them? I’m definitely crazy, but not for believing that I’m allowed to love another person again. Stay cool ya’ll!

*Here’s the article I mentioned, https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201405/can-rebound-relationship-be-the-real-deal

P.S this relationship didn’t work out but I don’t believe it had anything to do with it being a rebound. We were together for almost two years!

Love always,

Bee x